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ARTICLES & ANSWERSSenior Life and Jennifer Meagher RN are featured on the WHEC News 10 website: www.WHEC.com. Jennifer answers questions from people like you and writes an article as well. She’s been writing for News 10 since 2007.
The most common questions asked of Senior Life are about life planning; options, costs and decisions. These letters and articles outline some of the considerations. Need more information? Book a consultation for complete information for your situation.
DECISIONS and FINANCESDear Jennifer,
My parents need help. They aren’t doing very well at their house. My mother has dementia and she needs watching. My father has to keep an eye on her every minute. She’s tried to get out of the house in the middle of the night because she thinks she hears children crying. He wakes up all night with her. My father is losing weight. And he still doesn’t want her to live anywhere but home. I have called home care companies, but my parents don’t have the finances to pay for more than about a year and then they will be broke. I looked online and checked with other geriatric care managers, but I’d like your opinion.
Your parents are at two different levels of care and this is something many couples go through. The first consideration is safety. Your mom and dad must be “safe enough.” Right now, they aren’t. Your mom could end up in the news as a missing confused elder, which would be particularly devastating at this time of year.
I advise you to make decisions that you will not regret later. It isn’t wise to ignore the problem or cross your fingers that everything will go along alright. (You already realize that, which is why you are writing.) Years in the future we cannot come back to today to make different decisions. So, do you fight with your father, or let things go along “as is?”
It helps to imagine scenarios and consider how you will feel with the outcomes:
It is a lot to consider, and requires a coming together of the minds. Safety has to come first. Keep reading; there’s more in today’s article, the first in a series.
LIFE PLANNING- PART ONE of a four part series: FINANCES
Housing and care costs PER YEAR include: (These prices are the most common pricing at present).
Note: staying home feels less expensive – FINANCIALLY, but it can be more expensive to WELLNESS.
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